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Is it only my uneducated impression, or does most of the F/M visual content out there really, really suck?
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The kinky electricity flows not between the players, but directly from the domme at the camera: at the supposedly enthralled male gaze.

As a female viewer, I feel irrelevant. This isn’t surprising, because most porn is made for men. Even so, when I watch X/F porn, I can get a lot of pleasure out of it just by empathising with the girl on the reveiving end. Perhaps, this is the key to my dismay: when I look at spanking/BDSM porn, I want to empathise with the submissive. It’s all about the submissive for me, male or female. In the F/M porn, instead, the gaze follows not the submissive – the object of empathy, but the woman – the object of lust.


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All of the guests began to ascend the stairs towards the Upper Floor. […] We were told to help ourselves to Red Wine, White Wine or Champagne. […] Shelly said that it was her understanding that the guests could participate if they so chose. She said that she had no interest in joining in, she just wanted to watch. Suddenly, I became very aware that this was an actual porn shoot and we were all extras.

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People were not really interested in the food, they were interested in the torture part. Peter [Ackworth] our handsome host told us all that since her hands were free we should feel free to fill them with a cock or a vagina. Well you didn’t have to tell Shelly the housewife from Philly twice. She quickly stood up lifted her dress up and had Chloe get her off with her fingers. So much for not participating I guess. I noticed that these events fall into the category of mob mentality after awhile. Most people on their own would probably not be able to just jump right in, but when you have a table full of people all doing it suddenly you feel brave.

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The guests were getting more and more into the physical torture. Whatever hesitation they may have had wore off. Nobody seemed to have a problem getting rougher and rougher and rougher.

We took a short break while we awaited the third course which was beef. We all went out to the smoking area and began to chit-chat. The mood of the guests was much different now. We were not shy anymore, not by a long shot. First of all we were all pretty fucking drunk, which always makes things a bit more comfortable.

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It all escalated so quickly.

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I realized that my entire participation in this event was when I smacked Chloe a couple of times with a riding crop. Mind you I did this with the husband of the pianist because we figured there was safety in numbers. We were both a little shy about taking a whack at her, but again, due to the fact that we grouped together, we both got into it more and more.

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At this point I realized just how drunk I was, just how late it was and that I needed to scoot. I missed out on the money shot as they say in the industry. I slipped out of the room quickly and quietly without disrupting the scene. I put my coat on descended the stairs and headed out into the San Francisco night.

Hi…. I am Here For The Gang Bang « FleurdelisSF

(Again. Interesting. Some people in the pictures also seem to be folks whom I wrote about.)


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I am surprised that no one has commented about the presence of alcohol on virtually every party-style shoot at Kink. You can count the red cups in the promotional images of Public Disgrace and they are a sure indicator that the shoot took place on a closed set inside the armory. There is also a lot of liquor on The Upper Floor and many of the websites under the larger Kink umbrella do host live party shoots there from time to time.

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It cannot be ignored that the ethics of consent are murky when non-compensated and non-industry guests make up the bulk of the party and the company hosting the event stands to profit from someone doing something they might not have otherwise done sober. Your admission ticket into the party with free food and free booze are any and all of the images that are recorded during your stay and whether or not you like what you did they will run.

The Ultimate Surrender live matches used to provide free alcohol for the audience but after some problems they moved to a BYOB model that has been working out very well so far. The Upper Floor and the Speakeasy at the Armory still have free and open bars that are always kept very well stocked. At an Ultimate Surrender live match, audience participation is limited to cheering from the stands. Audience members are *not* encouraged to interact sexually with the wrestlers but at Public Disgrace or The Upper Floor guests *are* encouraged to interact sexually with models and other guests.

Mata Hari’s comment on “Consent and Public Disgrace”

I found this extremely interesting.


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If the target of the feminist campaign is violence against women, the question must be asked whether pornography is really the best place to try to make some headway against violence. Mainstream movies and TV are notorious for their violent imagery, and the claim that sexuality is the prime locus for violence against women ignores these genres entirely. As feminists we might ask why sexuality and pornography need to be included at all. If what we are interested in eliminating is the subordination of women, why does it have to be sexually explicit material that we target? Servility, injury, enjoying pain - why do they get banned only if they involve sex? The honest political answer is that no one is about to ban violent images in this country [i.e. the US] - they are too mainstream. Only sexual images are sufficiently offensive to large diverse groups, and targeting seemingly violent sexual images would be the only way for feminists to get widespread public support. But the consequence of picking on sexual images is that sexuality itself becomes the target. This result is a major setback for those groups within the women’s movement whose goal is to de-repress women’s sexuality.

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Good pornography, like good sex education, is useful as a therapeutic tool not because it sets out to convince my clients that they want to do everything—or anything—they see, but because it helps to build somatic and visual vocabularies from which to make empowered choices. […] In a world that valorizes the domination over and discrediting of members of queer communities, women, and people of color, images and stories of empowerment are necessary. So often my students and clients grieve because they believe their lives would have been different if they had these images and this sense of possibility and self-possession when they were younger.

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Pornography is powerful. It is riveting, and can be hard to compete with. I don’t think this makes porn the devil, any more than books are the devil for making us question our worlds, or for instilling wanderlust in the comfortable.

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