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Left to itself, a state of imbalance tends to return to equilibrium. To maintain imbalances, you have to introduce force into the situation. The greater the disparities, the more force it takes to preserve them. This is as true in society as it is in physics.

That means you can’t have rich people and poor people without police to impose that unequal relation to resources. You can’t have whiteness, which inflects and stabilizes that class divide, without a vast infrastructure of racist courts and prisons. You can’t keep two and a half million people—nearly a million of them black men—behind bars without the constant exertion of potentially lethal violence. You can’t enforce the laws that protect the wealth of good liberals like Governor Nixon without officers like Darren Wilson killing black men by the hundred.

The militarization of the police is not an aberration—it is the necessary condition of a society based on hierarchy and domination. It is not just the police that have been militarized, but our entire way of life. Anyone who does not see this is not living on the business end of the guns. These are the forces of peace and justice, the mechanisms that “keep the peace” in a dramatically imbalanced social order.

What They Mean when They Say Peace

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Anonymous asked:

Your 16 October 2013 post at post/64230171629/when-lisa-millbank-writes-words-best-double-check-you is blank. Was that supposed to happen?

maymay:

No…? It seems like it’s available on my blog, to me.

unquietpirate:

Hm. It appears blank for me also:

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:/

Clear your cache and check again maybe?

I just checked using a clean Tor Browser and it is definitely showing up for me:

Are your connection(s) being censored?

My blog(s) being censored and otherwise filtered happens so routinely people don’t actually believe me. And according to the OpenNet Initiative, blogs like mine are the single most censored kind of website—even more so than political opposition party sites:

This is why I tell folks that the best way to read my blogs is to use the Tor Browser Bundle. But hey, due to censorship, my website is best viewed using the Tor Browser Bundle.

Get it and try again?


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Anonymous asked:

Your 16 October 2013 post at post/64230171629/when-lisa-millbank-writes-words-best-double-check-you is blank. Was that supposed to happen?

No…? It seems like it’s available on my blog, to me.


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thebrightobvious:

maymay:

http://safeword.tumblr.com/post/94321483842/man-someones-trying-to-dos-attack-the-fetlife   

safeword:

man someone’s trying to DOS attack the fetlife predator alert tool?? this is a perfect example of like, okay trash m-aymay if u want that’s chill but the dude makes some REALLY USEFUL tools and noone is helped by taking them down? like those predator alter tools are INCREDIBLE! i flagged my abuser on facebook AND use them to screen people i’m messaging on fetlife and okc! i don’t understand why people think it’s good or useful to boycott them or try to take them down when all they do is help people, regardless of their maker??????????? m-aymay doesn’t even use fetlife and isn’t affected by it, the only people hurt by crashing the tool are users like me??? wtf is wrong w/ people

What’s wrong with them is that they (and, indeed, most humans) don’t think rape is wrong. I’ve made this point over and over again and the only reason it’s hard to accept is because it’s heartbreaking, not because there isn’t evidence to back it up: BDSM’ers, the loudest and most insistent people activately attacking Predator Alert Tool, are definitionally pro-rape, and there’s a huge difference between what they do and what ethical kinksters do.

People aren’t just “boycotting” (personally deciding not to use) the Predator Alert Tools. They’re censoring them, i.e. withholding information about them from people who might choose to use them otherwise. If they really cared about protecting you from abuse, they’d be spreading word of the tools far and wide and making their own versions that maymay doesn’t have administrator access to. But they’re not. Ergo, they care more about dictating how you think than empowering you to protect yourself. Or, to put it more simply: they want to abuse you, not help you protect yourself from abuse. This is oppression culture. They’re taking down the tools because "all [the tools] do is help people".

The Bitter BDSMer Brigade is pro-censorship, as their actions clearly demonstrate. But the Predator Alert Tools are inherently anti-censorship. Not only are the reports visible to the public, but the open-ended report format ensures that you and you alone get to define whether your consent has been violated. The ideas behind the tools are an attack on everything the BBB stands for. Of course people like Caroline Tyler are trying to take the tools down!

Luckily, the coolest thing about PAT is its capability to be repurposed wholesale, for free, by anyone.  Most people and systems keep you dependent on them and then demand you be grateful for the crumbs they give you. See: parents, teachers, capitalism, the BDSM community itself. But there’s no need to depend on maymay to use PAT. Just fork the opensource code and create your own versions. Check out How Privacy Works in the Predator Alert Tools to help you decide which ones you’d like to fork. If you don’t think you’re tech-savvy enough, ask for help pretty much anywhere on the internet - Twitter, Reddit, Stack Overflow, whatever. Maybe not Fetlife, though. ;)

Example of PAT being re-purposed wholesale: Cop Block Tool for Facebook exposes police officer’s Facebook profiles.


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http://safeword.tumblr.com/post/94321483842/man-someones-trying-to-dos-attack-the-fetlife   

safeword:

man someone’s trying to DOS attack the fetlife predator alert tool?? this is a perfect example of like, okay trash m-aymay if u want that’s chill but the dude makes some REALLY USEFUL tools and noone is helped by taking them down? like those predator alter tools are INCREDIBLE! i flagged my abuser on facebook AND use them to screen people i’m messaging on fetlife and okc! i don’t understand why people think it’s good or useful to boycott them or try to take them down when all they do is help people, regardless of their maker??????????? m-aymay doesn’t even use fetlife and isn’t affected by it, the only people hurt by crashing the tool are users like me??? wtf is wrong w/ people

What’s wrong with them is that they (and, indeed, most humans) don’t think rape is wrong. I’ve made this point over and over again and the only reason it’s hard to accept is because it’s heartbreaking, not because there isn’t evidence to back it up: BDSM’ers, the loudest and most insistent people activately attacking Predator Alert Tool, are definitionally pro-rape, and there’s a huge difference between what they do and what ethical kinksters do.

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unquietpirate:

On This Episode, we use candle power to bring my long-lost Nintendo Wii back from the dead:

Having to burn candles in order to play videogames tickles all my romantic sensibilities about technomagic…

Read More at Emotional Mutation: The Technomadic Technomage, Mario, and Me

Haha, awesome! :D
For those wondering, yes, those are stickers on my laptop. From left to right, bottom to top, they are as follows.
Left of the trackpad:
Turn Off FOX
Hackmeet (which I did not actually attend because I was on the other side of country giving a presentation about technology and what it has to do with polyamory)
I Don’t Do Boxes
Radical polyamory heart (designed by A. Allen, first featured to the Polyamory subculture in this conference keynote I gave, which is actually kind of a backhanded compliment to polyamory and is really more about anarchic relationships generally)….
Right of the trackpad:
The other half of the Turn Off Fox sticker (yes, I sliced it in two),
a “prole.” sticker, which is an oblique reference to what class warfare in Antarctica looks like. Ask unquietpirate for more details about that. ;)
I love love love my laptop stickers! Also, SCIENCE!

unquietpirate:

On This Episode, we use candle power to bring my long-lost Nintendo Wii back from the dead:

Having to burn candles in order to play videogames tickles all my romantic sensibilities about technomagic…

Read More at Emotional Mutation: The Technomadic Technomage, Mario, and Me

Haha, awesome! :D

For those wondering, yes, those are stickers on my laptop. From left to right, bottom to top, they are as follows.

Left of the trackpad:

Right of the trackpad:

  • The other half of the Turn Off Fox sticker (yes, I sliced it in two),
  • a “prole.” sticker, which is an oblique reference to what class warfare in Antarctica looks like. Ask unquietpirate for more details about that. ;)

I love love love my laptop stickers! Also, SCIENCE!


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Cyberbusking: An Unusual Appeal

So, I don’t usually use blog posts to explicitly ask readers for donations. But I’m doing that tonight because in the span of 2 months, I’ve had to use money for a laptop repair ($300+), a car repair (~$370), and as of tonight, a car tow (~$130) and repair that I don’t yet have the bill for. These numbers are pretty extreme, for me.

As regular readers know, I don’t have a house. I have a car. That car is my house. (Legally speaking, I’m a vagrant.) For most folks, rent is the most expensive part of their budget. That’s true for me, too. It’s just that, for me, “rent” means “car insurance.” Since I’m kind of a cyborg, I also have a cell phone bill, and these two expenses combined are what I think of as “rent.”

I’ve done a lot more than I used to think possible to distance myself from the need to use money. To large extent, it’s worked. A huge chunk of my food comes from others’ waste, and another huge chunk of it comes from gift cards from readers like you. Most of my “cash on hand” also comes from donations, often for the utility software I make available such as Tumblr Crosspostr or the Inline Google Spreadsheet Viewer. (I also used to be on food stamps, but those were cut.)

I’ve been jobless for over four years now, and homeless for more than three. And yet, it’s in that time—the time when I’ve been jobless and homeless—that I’ve been at my most impactful, in areas ranging from sexual violence prevention to seed saving and food justice. I bring this up not to justify my existence (I don’t have to justify existing), but to remind you that having a job is totally unrelated to doing meaningful work. Telling jobs and bosses to go fuck themselves has been one of the best things I’ve ever done in terms of my personal productivity, and in terms of my positive impact on society.

I hope that’s as inspiring to you as it feels to me, because living in a world where people are treated first and foremost like humans instead of line items is a Big Fucking Deal to me. And getting rid of money is a necessary step towards that world.

But taking the path less traveled doesn’t make me independent of others. No one’s really completely independent anyway. What it makes me, then, is simply a lot more aware of the ways in which I am dependent on other people. And then my car breaks down for the second time in that many months while I’m hundreds of miles away from anyone I know and, well, #UghCapitalism.

What everyone intuitively knows but most people don’t acknowledge is that we use money to outsource the work of having human relationships. If I stayed put in this area long enough to make some friends, eventually someone might help me get the parts and fix my car. Or I could ditch the car, go back to hitchhiking, relying solely on the kindness and curiosity of strangers. And if I can’t get the money to fix my car, then maybe that’s what I’ll do. I’m pretty resourceful. Look, I’ll probably be just fine.

But if I’m going to get my car fixed, which I’d like to do so that I can continue focusing on coding instead of where my next ride is coming from, and if I’m going to get it fixed any time in the near future, which I’d like to do so that I can keep a commitment to someone I care about further up the coast, I’ve got to use money to do that. I’m lucky that I can dip into my bank account—something a lot of people don’t even have. But that’s money I would have otherwise spent primarily on things like gas or food.

I’m not really asking for your help because I can’t live without it. I probably can. But your donations make it possible for me to not merely survive, but to create; to focus on projects, ideas, and resources that make our world a better place. If you think what I’ve been doing is valuable, I need your help to continue spending my time and energy on that work. And if you think I’ve done a lot on my own, just imagine what I can accomplish with your help.

So, if you’ve appreciated any of the essays on my blogs, or if you’ve been using any code I wrote, and you’ve been on the fence about whether to donate, please do. There is no such thing as “just” a small donation. And given the past two months of expensive equipment failures, now is a time when even small donations will really make a difference.

Thanks.


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This is what the difference between BDSM’ers and anti-rape kinksters looks like

Shortly after I published my last post, “What happens when a healthcare company’s employee takes down a rape survivor support site?” I received permission to publish an email from yet another PAT-FetLife user. It’s particularly relevant because it directly counters one of the most frequently cited justifications for why the healthcare company employee, Caroline Tyler, attacked Predator Alert Tool for FetLife and made it unavailable. That justification being that “it was set up for use in USA to identify people with a criminal record in our society, it has no use whatsoever in the UK.” (Definitely follow the link to FetLife and chime in, yourself, if you want.)

Of course, that is itself at best a grave misunderstanding of the purpose of the Predator Alert Tools and at worst yet another intentional lie from the Bitter BDSM’er Brigade about the tool. The truth is I intended Predator Alert Tool to be used wherever ethical people want to act in resistance of rape culture. National boundaries are not a sensible demarcation for such a demographic. (And it’s also why not having any moderator is a necessary, intentional design feature.)

So, without further ado, here’s the email:

Hi :)

I’m in the UK so I don’t know how good it will be to you, but if you ever turn up in Surrey my sofa is available for a kip. […]

I don’t know, your inbox is probably flooded with these kinds of messages so you probably don’t want to hear but I just wanted to thankyou for helping spread the anti-sexual-violence message and the whole thing with FAADE. I’m just incredibly grateful. It enabled me to warn people about Jack, also known as Fox_Vanweasel amongst other things, when the criminal justice system failed me. I think he and his honeytrap girlfriend Renegade-Hearts have deleted their accounts now, but it gave me a voice when I felt like I had none.

Jack restrained, raped, tortured and humiliated me for 6 hours but more than that he lied and betrayed my trust as well as physically overpowering me when I was a naive barely-18 year old, and he was a fully grown man. I was naive, but teenagers should be allowed to be naive without predators taking advantage of this.

He groomed me before executing a deeply violent attack, switching between sweet and caring and gift-giving to anally-raping and humiliating, then back to play video games and run me a bath. I was trapped in his house for 8 hours, too afraid to even speak. Yet the police told me I should have ‘fought back more’ when the blindfold slipped because his piss had dampened it. They told me it was a ‘he said, she said’ situation even though I later found his accounts on other sites expressing a desire to rape someone prior to my assault. They dismissed the case entirely and there was a report some time later on crime statistics in Croydon, where this was carried out, saying that a lot of people are dissuaded from taking the individual to court, or the police won’t do so, in order to make the official crime statistics (based on court cases) look lower.

So this unbiased, user-owned PAT tool is ideal in such situations of corruption, bureaucracy and pencil-pushing taking over from protecting real persons from real attacks. It’s a shame their accounts are gone so people can’t be warned, but maybe the interview with the police scared them off- made them realise they can face consequences.

Anyway. The real message is that you’re doing a good thing and you’re welcome to a drink or the couch if you’re ever in the UK.

-[Mia] :)

The takeaway here is that there is a very big difference between BDSM’ers and ethical kinksters. The overwhelming majority of information about kinky-sexy-things on the Internet isn’t useful. It’s rape apologist propaganda.

There’s no better demonstration of this than the fact that Predator Alert Tool’s most vocal and insistent attackers come from the supposedly “safe, sane, and consensual” BDSM community.


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